Not Alone - first year of marriage

When two people get married, there’s so much emphasis on the wedding. The color scheme, the flowers, the seating chart, the food, the guests, the list goes on and on. A LOT of focus goes into the couple’s special day, but not necessarily on what comes after.

Before I got married, I had my own notions of what I thought it would be. I thought it would consist of doing grown-up things like..

Picking out curtains for your nice home.

Having fine china.

Having “grown-up” dinners with other married couples.

Eventually having a few kids, a couple pets.

And in many ways, it is. But it is also messy, with misunderstandings, and constant compromise, with a frequent feeling of fatigue and a sense of obligation to fulfill your duty as a partner and a parent.

Marriage is like having someone hold a mirror up to your face, every day for the rest of your life. Sometimes, you’ll like what you see. Sometimes you won’t. It won’t always be easy, but it can be the best thing that has ever happened to you.

For those of you who have just gotten married, are thinking of tying the knot, or have been married for years, here’s a list of things you may think sometime during your first year together. And guess what? I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to think them. If anything, I hope you get a good laugh out of it. Because if there is anything you need in a good marriage, it’s a sense of humor.  ~Jenny


Featured Image – Jacqueline Pilar Photography